Meet Linus

I Was Terrified of Getting It Wrong.

Now I lead The Underground - where men become the Dominants their partners are desperate for.

"What if I hurt her?"

"What if I'm doing this wrong?"

"What if I'm just... not dominant enough?"

If those questions are keeping you up at night, you found the right place.

Those questions haunted me for years. And every piece of advice I found made it worse.

Linus

BDSM Educator & Relationship Coach

Founder of Dominant Guide & The Underground
10+ years in ethical power exchange
2,500+ community members guided

Verify: 𝕏 IG YT

My Story

I'm Linus.

Ten years ago, I was the nervous guy reading forums at 2am, trying to figure out how to be dominant without being an asshole.

My girlfriend had told me she wanted me to "take control more."

I had no idea what that actually meant.

So I did what most men do: I fumbled. I overthought. I performed. I tried techniques I'd read about. I put on a costume that never fit.

The worst part? I could feel her losing interest. Not because she didn't love me - but because I couldn't show up as the man she needed.

Something was missing. And I thought that something was me.

The Rabbit Hole

What They Gave Me
(And Why It Failed)

I went looking for answers. Here's what I found:

The Fantasy Factory

gave me 50 Shades - abuse dressed up as romance. I tried "intensity" and felt like a creep.

The Cosplayers

gave me "alpha male" content - posturing, peacocking, performing. I tried it and felt like a fraud.

The Motivational Poster Bros

gave me "just be confident" - as if confidence is a switch you flip. Thanks for nothing.

The Gatekeepers

told me I wasn't "real" enough, "experienced" enough, "dominant" enough. They profited from my confusion.

I was handed broken map after broken map. And blamed when I got lost.

The Breakthrough

The Moment Everything Changed

Then something clicked.

I stopped trying to LEARN dominance and started to UNLEASH it.

I realized it was never about adding techniques. It was about removing the cage.

The confidence. The presence. The authority. It was already there - buried under years of conditioning, shame, and other people's bullshit expectations.

I didn't need to become someone new.

I needed to remember who I was before they convinced me to shrink.

The difference changed everything. In the bedroom. In my relationship. In how I walked through the world.

My partner didn't just notice. She exhaled. Like she'd been waiting for this version of me to show up.

"Finally," she said.
That word changed my life.

The Mission

Why The Underground Exists

I built Dominant Guide because I wished it existed when I was starting out.

Not another forum full of gatekeepers telling you you're doing it wrong.

Not academic theory that doesn't translate to Saturday night.

Not toxic "alpha" garbage that treats women like objects.

Not 50 Shades fantasy that confuses abuse with authority.

Just real guidance from someone who's been in the cage - and found the way out.

Core Principles

What I Believe

Dominance isn't learned. It's unleashed. You don't need more techniques. You need fewer blocks.

Dominance isn't about controlling someone. It's about earning their trust to lead. Authority is earned, never demanded.

The best Dominants are the ones who care enough to do it right. Power without ethics isn't dominance. It's abuse.

Submission is strength. The partners who surrender to us aren't weak - they're courageous. They deserve the real thing, not pretenders.

The Underground

We call ourselves The Underground.

Because what we're building isn't supposed to exist.

A place where dominance is developed, not performed.

Where power and ethics aren't enemies.

Where both Dominants AND their partners find what they're looking for.

We're not performing dominance. We're becoming it.

The Cosplayers don't want us here. The Fantasy Factory doesn't want us here. The shame machine definitely doesn't want us here.

But here we are. And every day, more people wake up.

Find Me Elsewhere

Let's Connect

Or just reply to any email. I read every one.

Ready?

You've read enough to know I've been where you are.

You've felt the gap. The cage. The costume that never fit.

The man you're supposed to be is still in there.

Let's find him.

Get The Confident Dom - Free Or explore the full library

"We're not angry at women or society. We're frustrated with bad information - and we're building something better."